Caffinated & Pixie Dusted
Going backwards to go forward;
My safe place turned against me, because it was easier to let everyone in and not leave any room to breathe for myself. It’s all a cloud of sweat and tears but why can I hear the thunder of laughter that echoed in my heart in the moments? That makes it sound like it was a storm but it really wasn’t it was long drawn out sunsets, and the blinding heat of 3pm. It was a hurricane in the middle of august and a cloudless day in may. You almost never see a place the same way you did for the very first time. Even after years when you have nothing you use to own from that first time, you’re a almost a completely new human based off of the amount of time and how long it takes for cells to die and recreate. So if these are new eyes and they’re seeing it for the first time, and the memory bank is a cloudy mess of timelines and mistakes, how could I have ever been here before. How could the smell of coffee beans being crushed, and the clank of dishes being washed, and the squeak of a doorknob passing through my hand, feel like home? If I close my eyes I wouldn’t bump into anything and if you asked how many people could fill the whole place, I could tell you.
A little
I see a little bit of everyone I’ve ever loved in you; the eye bags, the laugh, the fit that you threw
I see a little bit of something that I’ve never knew; the passion, the strength, the memories you hold onto.
I see a little bit of everyone I’ve ever loved in you; the eye bags, the laugh, the fit that you threw
I see a little bit of something that I’ve never knew; the passion, the strength, the memories you hold onto.
“You don’t need someone to complete you. You only need someone to accept you completely”— Unknown (via perrfectly)
(via nakedly)
One of the best tips for friendships I’ve ever seen was from a tumblr post, years ago. I don’t recall exactly what it said, but it suggested just… asking what people want from you.
A friend comes to you with a problem? Ask them directly how you can best comfort them.
Do you want my advice or help through action?
Do you want a listening ear to vent to?
Do you want to be comforted with affection?
Do you want to be distracted?
It can seem awkward and clunky, and yeah… sometimes it is. But it’s still friendship, and “awkward and clunky” is often better than incorrectly guessing what they want or need from you. Maybe they don’t actually know what they need, but you can invite them to think about it, and that openness of communication makes it easier for them to say “Actually, no, this isn’t working, I want x instead of y.” And you make the switch! It’s that easy.
(via coronaryartery)